Doesnt Make a Difference

A boy n girl meet, they fall in love & then fall apart, girl moves on, boy asks for fogiveness & a life back together, girl says, "doesnt make a difference anymore. You are past, n long gone. I have a new life, n I cannot fit you into this part. I respect your feelings, but it doesnt make a difference to me. ITS OVER." The poor heart broken boy collects his shattered pieces of heart n trys to mends it alone. Now most of you must be thinking, guy makes new friends n moves on over a period of time. Thats how most of these "similar" love stories end. lets stop for a moment, n go to the part where, it doesnt make a difference to the girl.

I am not judging her, but doesnt such small events become truning point in a person's life? Its easy for people who have the determination not to let things effect you. Is it true? There is such emence self-control that it really doesnt matter. Lets say agreed. But what about the poor boy, there he is walking happily on the road thinking, I have the best life because I have my "twin soul" with me, n Bam! "it doesnt make a difference". What should he be doing? Yes practially he wnt die, n probably he will have to move on as nothing stops. But what about the effect of such a thing in his life? It can be life altering!! He can stop beleiving in "trust", or may be start a new set of values all together.
yet again, it doesnt make a difference, does it!

8.5 or not coming

As u guys know, recruiting is like meeting a new joker every hour... So 1 of the funniest jokers who I meet recently.... is Venkatsamy Silarajan! As u may realize from da name, the guy's communication skills are just like his name!! So now he was interviewed with Patni n then an US client everything happened n he got an offer from us.... Since the day I hv sent him an offer, he used 2 call me practically everyday tht too after work hrs with some or the other query... Like 1 day, when I was having diner he calls 2 ask, "Dheya, I going medical test 2mrw, I take urine with me or do therhe" !!! I was like :-O u do it the way ur comfortable!!!! After all this fucking nonsense.... 24 hrs before his date of joining he mesges me, "I not happy with sal, I want 8.5". Now we had given him 8.2, so it was like crying for only 30k..... somehow I convinced him n he joined on 9th April. When he gets the documents, his graduation degree says his name is "VICTOR SALIRAJA" he has like 8 yrs work ex, n his 1st company offer letter name is also "VICTOR" (for those wondering y VICTOR, he has done his Grad/Post Grad from UK, n used an alias name) FUCKKKKKKKKK then all day on 9th april we tried 2 figure out if he is Venkat/Victor.... n finally @ 6:00pm in da evening he got hired as VEnkat n he promised to get an affidavit tht he is Venkat!!!!

well its not over yettttt. He mesges me on Saturday morning 9:10 am, "I want 8.5 or not coming, wt my work location. reply by 12pm"I got so angry on him, I spoke 2 my boss n during the weekend my boss spoke 2 him, n on Sunday night he mesged I will cum in 8.2 Lacks. Not so surprisingly on Monday he doesnt turn up, n @ around 2:00pm mails I will join after 2 days!!!! FUCKKKK.... FInally we revoked his offer n now he is calling n sayings " I sorry. I making lots of mistakhas, I cuming I liking Patni"!!!!

If I everr meet him... I wud kill him I swear 2 GODDDDDDDDD

Nagaon Beach - Alibaug

I wanted to blog this since last 2 weeks. On Valentine's day I had being to Alibaug with my family. 1 of the beaches I visited was Nagaon beach. We reached that place just before sunset, n beleive me when I say this, its a lil drop of heaven on earth. The beach is calm n black sand beach, n in front of the beach are rows n rows of long trees.. I think they r pine, but not sure...n so evenly grown...looks like God acted as an architect while planting them :). For 1se the beach doesnt have any shops or shacks, so its absolutely clean....



When the sun was setting, the water gliters like diamonds studded on the beach... the repels of the waves ending on the beach, creating a beautiful design on the shore n gives u a feeling that God is now an interior decorator... The sound of waves slashing against eachother n the cool breeze adds to the magic of being there. I close my eyes n I can still remember the feeling....Its beyond words...U feel calm n quite inside ur heart....The problems in your life seems so distant, away in the city. here you will close to almighty. he is walking with you n healing you with his magic...



I would love to go there 1se with the person I love, n the day I do, I will blog it again 4 myself...

New Romantic Song

Has anyone heared the new song from Raaz, Soniyo??? Its so lovely, makes u beleive in LOVE!! Its my current fav song... I just have a big smile on my face hearing that song!! I hope someday the guy of my life will sing that song for me.... The thought drives u to sum other world, far from here... where ur not restricted or binded with situations... there is no work pressure, a place where people get hurt v rarely.. A place where people have time for eachother... to enjoy to be there...

n back to the real world... :) enjoy the song guys... n do let me know, whtz ur current fav song?

A new kind of Life

Its being 2 weeks since I have moved to Pune. For those who are not aware, I have being deputed to Pune for 3 months for a specific assignment. In a notice of 2 days I had to move here! Thank God I have my bro who stays here, so I got shelter. I have being always being in the warm cacoon of home, where I do not have to worry about anything, except may be trying to keep my room clean. Its a whole new experience here.. n the strangest part being, I used 2 feel so bad to eat alone, n now I just love eating on my own...
At different times, we have different views of the same siuation... I guess thats what is called, growing up... I like Pune city... the weather is keeping me away from diseases... n its quite pleasant in terms of temperature.. People here are seem warm...

I definately miss home, my team, my friends.. but I think I needed this experience n I am completely exploring it. :)

Is crying that bad???

Is crying that bad?

For people who know me well, know this about me I cry a lot. I am not a kind of person who can keep emotions inside n it always bursts out as tears. My well-wishers always advice me it’s a wrong thing to take every little thing to your heart n its no point crying. They are of the opinion people who make you cry do not value your tears. Well I basically wasn’t as bad as I am from past 1 yr or so… due to events in last 1 yr, I sometimes find myself helpless n tears just keep pouring down…Like even if I see an emotional scene of a show, where som1 is being misunderstood or being hurt, I feel the jolt inside my stomach n the knot down my throat!! It’s a bit unnatural as I wasn’t so emotionally handicap before!!

What my question is, is it that wrong to be emotional? Luckily I am not emotional with regards to work, its only my private matters that I take utter care for! Like my parents, friends, partner! Is it wrong to be hurt if they do something wrong… Is it IMP u need to rational all the while? Y shouldn’t or can’t you have expectations from such close associates! N if after having healthy relation, something small goes wrong n you cry, y is such a big deal! I love them, n so I get hurt easily n so I cry! People are different right? Its not that I blame them, I just expect certain things from them! N foremost thing is that I am a person who cries, so please deal with the issue sensitively! I know most guys cannot handle crying woman n flee from the 1st door out… I think its unfair.. Guys have millions of habits which annoy us, n we do handle them sensitively.

SO any of you emotional fools as me, come to the open n confess your weakness!!

Happy Bloging

Annoying Habits of Loved Ones

All of us have annoying habits, n more often than not; we are unaware of it. Interestingly most of the people around us are also unaware. But then, there will be 1 police officer who will know it all, n if he breaks the news to the others around, all of them will be sentient suddenly n that’s when it gets irritating!! Like for example, my dad is a loud chewer, but me n mom never noticed until 1 day, sister pointed… Since then we cant ever over hear his load chewing!!! :D

So basically we all have such stupid habits… Mine is, I am a loud sleeper!! :D Yet when you love a person, se habits never seem to bother so much… I mean ur friends wouldn’t stop talking to you just cause you have an annoying habit. Also strangely you will never ever notice an annoying habit of your partner, but all your friends will notice the same!! Aggrrrhhhh… I will not mention who has this, but I know som1 who sniffs a lot!! I mean all the time like a DOG!! But my friend finds her “angel dropped from heaven just for him!!!” But its cute that people not only accept others the way the are, more so fall in love with their imperfections!!!

Happy Loving fellow bloggers

HAPPY 2009

New Year is the time to bid farewell to the old year and welcome the coming year. It is the time to forget and get past memories that are no longer useful or worth pondering upon. It is the time for new beginnings and new starts in life. New Year has a message for each one of us. One should let go of the past that has bad memories and accept what has happened, has happened for some reason. Instead of clinging onto your past and things that have gone, it is better to let go.

There is an old saying that goes, "Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened". This essentially means that there is no use crying over spilt milk. You cannot turn back time and do things that would benefit you. Accept that some days you are the pigeon and some days you are the statue. New year is the time of new beginnings. It is time to start afresh and do things that would make someone else smile. Make a pledge to make at least one person happy. You will see the difference it can make in both your lives. The essential message of New Year is let go off the past and embrace life as it comes to you. You will be happier and merrier that way.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!

The Paradox of our times

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge , but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

Really wonderful article..... Had to blog.....

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework. Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS: 1. TRUST 2. COMMUNICATION 3. INTIMACY 4. A SENSE OF HUMOR 5. SHARING TASKS 6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN 7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.) 8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS 9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE 10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.