Friday, August 12, 2011
6 months seems a very small time... its 2 quarter, half a year... Y is it less, when u know a person almost 8-9 yrs, 6 months is like a drop on a flowing river, trying 2 meet its destination... so what does this 6 months signify!! ahem.... I am married for 6 months now... how is it special! well I AM MARRIED FOR 6 MONTHS NOW!!! :) :)
Its too early in my marriage to talk about how things should be done, to make a successful marriage n seem all knowledgeable on this!! But I know 1 thing, living with a person, n just knowing a person are 2 very different thoughts of the same idea, (if you know what I mean!) The fun part is, you share everything together... food, rooms, pillows, T.v, WiFi, monthly bills, the BIG stress of maids(trust me that’s a BIG 1), stressful work days, awesome promotion news, etc ... to sum it up, Life in general!! :) The easy part is, when u guys are really friends to understand n Empathize to what your partner is going through....
Nothing is life is smooth, n it shouldn’t be, the turbulence adds spice to it... But i do not have anything specific to mention here at this point in time.. so let’s leave it at that...
cheers to the 6 months of budding love....Love u dear..
Thursday, March 4, 2010
To love is to give one's time because u can never take it back and the other person can never throw it out
Dr. Zimmerman's TIP:
"The natural course, if untended, is to drift apart and become the proverbial two ships passing in the night."
"When something is missing in your life, it usually turns out to be someone."
What Dr. Zimmerman Has To Say About This:
When I worked in sales, occasionally I'd hear a fellow salesperson say, "Selling wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the customers." And when I taught at the university, occasionally I'd hear another professor say, "I really enjoy teaching. It's the students I can't stand."
What they didn't understand was RELATIONSHIP ... the importance of relationship and the process of relationship. And the same thing could be said about a marriage relationship or a team relationship. There are 10 things you've got to know and got to do if you're going to make it all work.
=> 1. Get a realistic understanding of what a relationship can and cannot do.
As marriage therapists Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott say, "Marriage or a relationship is, in actual fact, just a way of living. Before marriage, we don't expect life to be all sunshine and roses, but we seem to expect marriage to be that way." And, "Debunking the myth of eternal romance will do more than just about anything to help you build a lifelong, happy marriage."
I agree. I'm reminded of an attorney who handles many divorce cases who told me that the number one reason two people split up is that they "refuse to accept the fact that they are married to a human being." The belief in a "happily-ever-after marriage" is one of the most widely held and destructive marriage myths today.
=> 2. Get a realistic perception of the other person.
The most dramatic loss experienced in a new marriage is the idealized image the two partners have of one another. Sooner or later, reality will hit the two people squarely in the face: that they did not marry the person they thought they did.
That's why author John Fisher advises, "The success of a marriage comes not in finding the 'right' person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they inevitably realize they married."
Similarly, if you're on a team at work, take some time to get to know each other. The more you understand each other's strengths, use those strengths, and work around their weaknesses, the stronger your team will be.
=> 3. Engage in meaningful communication.
According to Gary Smalley, the author of several books on marital communication, "Many couples, thinking they know each other intimately, have actually lived on a superficial level for years. Unfortunately, marriages of this type are the norm rather than the exception."
In essence, they have failed to communicate. Oh, they may talk, but that's quite different than real communication. Talking is sharing facts, such as "I'll be home at five ... and ... Let's have spaghetti for dinner."
Communication is spending quality time together ... sharing who you really are, what you think, and how you feel. And many adults are afraid of sharing their feelings ... or are "too busy" for any in-depth communication with their spouse. As a result, these people find themselves ten years into a marriage and still very lonely. They discover that their loneliness has nothing to do with their proximity to the other person. It comes from a lack of deeper, ongoing communication.
As Patrick Morely points out, "The natural course, if untended, is to drift apart and become the proverbial two ships passing in the night."
=> 4. Stay focused on your goal.
It's what distinguishes two people who are "merely" living together and two people who are "truly" married. Truly married people have a common goal they are pursuing.
And when you can't see your goal, you're going to have problems.
That became clear to me through the presentation of another speaker at a Low Alpine sales meeting, an outdoor equipment manufacturer. The speaker talked about climbing Mt. Everest ... the skills it took, the dangers that had to be handled, the people who made it to the top, and those who didn't.
But just before he finished his presentation, he asked the audience a question. He remarked, "There's a time when you're climbing when you almost feel depressed. You feel so low and down you're not sure you can continue. Do you know when that is?"
The audience shouted out their answers ... such things as ... when you first begin the climb, when you only have 100 yards left, when you reach the top, and when you begin your descent. No one was even close. He said, "Climbers get down when bad weather sets in."
He went on to explain that when bad weather sets in you can't see the peak. You lose sight of your GOAL and become easily distracted and sometimes even depressed.
Of course, you might be wondering what this has to do with marriage or relationships. There's a very clear correlation. Like a mountain climber who can't see the peak, marriages and relationships that can't see their clearly defined goals are more susceptible to distractions and more likely to waste their time on the less important things in life.
So ask yourself if your marriage has a clearly defined goal. If not, get one. And the same goes for your relationship. Get a goal and keep your eye on the goal.
=> 5. Respect differences.
In the initial stages of a relationship, differences tend to attract. We find them fascinating. But often times, those same differences can become a source of irritation later on in the relationship.
That's too bad, because differences are the source of power ... when they're acknowledged, respected, and utilized. Dr. Ernest Bormann, one of the world's leading researchers on team effectives and my Ph.D. advisor, found indisputable evidence that the best teams were always composed of a variety of people with a variety of skills. The variety of talent allowed these team mates to find the best solutions that combined the best of everyone's input.
So when it comes to your marriage ... or your relationship ... learn to celebrate the differences and learn to use each other's strengths. Don't waste your time trying to pound the differences out of the other person or make the other person just like you. It's self-defeating, and it won't work anyway.
For starters, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott say, "You'll always find exceptions to the rule, but research and experience consistently point to a fundamental and powerful distinction between the sexes: Men focus on achievement; women focus on relationships. It sounds overly simplistic, and it probably is. But remembering this general rule can save every couple wear and tear on their marriage and strengthen their bond."
=> 6. Maintain a positive attitude.
Few things are more contagious and powerful than attitudes. And the attitude you bring to your marriage or your relationship will have a HUGE impact on the results you get.
As the world's leading authority on attitudes, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale declared, "There is a basic law that like attracts like. Negative thinking definitely attracts negative results. Conversely, if a person habitually thinks optimistically and hopefully, his positive thinking sets in motion creative forces, and success ...instead of eluding him ... flows toward him."
I couldn't agree with him more. I've seldom if ever seen a happy marriage or an effective team staffed with negative people. As author Tom Blandi puts it, "Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working 24 hours a day for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force."
Notice Blandi says you have to "harness and control this great force." In other words, your attitudes are changeable and controllable.
So don't cop out like so many negative people do ... saying they could be positive if they had a different job, lived in a better place, married a different person, or were teamed up with brighter colleagues. The truth is attitudes and happiness are not hinged upon better circumstances. A person with bad attitudes will still be a person with bad attitudes ... wherever and with whomever he or she lives and works ... unless he/she learns how to get and keep a better attitude.
=> 7. Spend some significant time together.
The philosopher Paul Tournier got right to the point. He wrote, "To love is to give one's time because u can never take it back and the other person can never throw it out. We never give the impression that we care when we are in a hurry."
In today's crazy busy world, there are few resources more precious than time. It's so much easier to give our partners things than time. And it's easier to give our mates quick advice and walk off than spend time on discussion and decision making.
By contrast, one of my clients, AstraZeneca, the pharmaceutical company, knows about the importance of spending time with others and on others. After Hurricane Katrina devastated the city of New Orleans in August of 2005, most of the conventions pulled out of the city ... which only lead to further financial devastation. But not AstraZeneca. They came in a few months later with the biggest convention the city had seen since Katrina.
As Rick Reid told me, "After noticing some neighborhoods and buildings in disarray, I noticed the eyes of the local people. Many looked tired, and some seemed almost without hope. As I and my fellow coworkers began to work in their neighborhoods and struck up conversations with the locals, their faces changed from despair to glimmers of brightness."
Rick continued, "Attendees at the AstraZeneca meeting were given the chance to volunteer in community activities for a day in the middle of the week. Hundreds helped the local 'Katrina Krewe' to clear debris from city streets. A couple hundred worked with the local 'REX' organization to landscape a school's grounds, and plant trees. A couple dozen worked on the Dr. Seuss exhibit at the local children's museum in preparation for its reopening. Forty went and helped to prepare the University's Women's and Children's Clinic to reopen. I worked with 50 others to repaint a wing of exam rooms in the University's 100-year old building that housed its primary care clinic. If you want to know what color, I'll show you my shirt."
The key point Rick made was all about time. He finished his letter to me by saying, "Prior to arriving in New Orleans, I was thinking that the main solution to getting things back to normal there would be more money. And indeed, my company has donated over $5 million in cash and medicines. Then I realized all this money helps, but so very much more is needed. Many workers, waiters, housekeepers, and even musicians came up to individuals in our group and thanked us for coming. It was our presence there ... it was our time spent with them ... that seemed to signal the beginning of a return to normal."
Rick has a lesson for all of us. If you want your relationship to work, if you want your marriage to succeed, then there's no substitute for time. You've got to spend time with each other and on each other.
=> 8. Build your friendship.
I saw a sign a while ago that read, "Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead. Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow. Do not walk beside me either. Just pretty much leave me alone." Of course I chuckled, but I also thought how tragic if someone actually believed the sign.
The research says that happily married people seem to know that it takes more than roses and romance to make a relationship work. It takes friendship, even being best friends to one another.
After all, best friends don't leave when the going gets tough. They stick by you, giving you the kind of encouragement that comes from not only knowing you well, but loving you anyway. They don't give up when things look impossible. They hold you accountable without shaming you. They don't even mind if you tell the same story you've told them before, because they like to see you laugh.
And like any other quality relationship, a friendship is built. It doesn't just happen.
=> 9. Have some fun together.
As Bill and Lynne Hybels, long-time marriage counselors, say, "Even the best marriages take a tremendous amount of work. If there is no fun to balance out the work, even the most earnest spouses begin to lose motivation and energy. And the more challenging a marriage is, the more important fun is. We have learned that mutually enjoyable, fun experiences can help heal tender wounds and become a bridge across frustrating differences."
Absolutely! Have some fun together. And the less time you have for fun, the more you need it. As author William Feather (1889-1981) wrote, "Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn't stop to enjoy it."
=> 10. Forgive each other.
You see ... it doesn't take a very big person to carry a grudge. It takes a big person to say, "I'm sorry ... I was wrong ... Please forgive me" or "Of course, I forgive you."
In any relationship, there will be anger, conflict, disagreements, and disappointments. The secret is to forgive the people involved, learn from the mistakes, and do better next time. And if you can't do that, you're doomed.
As author Ed Wheat sees it, "Marriage becomes a series of surprises for most of us, and one of them is how frequently we need to forgive and be forgiven ... Even the best relationship cannot remain intact for long without forgiveness."
Of course, many of you will say, "I can't forgive him for how he hurt my feelings ... I'll never forgive her for how she sabotaged me... and ... I can't let that person off the hook after all he did."
If that sounds like you, you've got it all backwards. Forgiveness is not about letting the other person off the hook. It's about setting yourself free. As clergyman 'Tope Popoola says, "Bitterness and an unforgiving spirit can be likened to you taking poison and expecting that someone else would die from the effect. Forgiveness is about setting the prisoner in your heart free only to discover that all along, you had been the real prisoner."
Others of you may say you can't forgive yourself. You screwed up at home or at work and you know it. But as my good friend Dr. Bev Smallwood says in her book, "This Wasn't Supposed To Happen To Me," it won't help a bit to keep on berating yourself, punishing yourself, or hating yourself. She says, "In the goal of going forward more skillfully, ongoing self-condemnation makes it LESS likely that you will now live more productively and joyfully. Yes, you need to pause and consider what happened in order to learn from it. But that pause should not become a stalled lifestyle. Look at your past mistakes, but don't stare at them."
It's kind of like the rear-view mirror in your car. It's much smaller than the windshield for a good reason. Their size is in proportion to the amount of time you should spend looking at them. Yes, you need to glance at the rear view mirror to see what's coming up behind you or what you might hit when backing up. However, the majority of your driving time must be spent looking ahead, keeping your eyes on where you're headed - not where you've been.
In a similar sense, learn to forgive yourself and others, learn from the setbacks, and then look forward.
Happy marriages need these 10 things. And they have nothing to do with good luck or the right genetics. It's all about knowing the right things and using the right skills.
Which of the 5 relationship skills listed above would bring the biggest payoff to your life? Then focus on what you can do to get better in that area.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Most often people forget what they decide half drunk half over excited for "new beginning". But I believe the things which are said at such moments, hold a lot of value that our "productive thinking"... May sound silly & impractical, but when one really adheres to those moments of joy & live life based on those decisions, more often than not, one is much happier from within... I happened to watch a documentary on discovery, describing the "chemical locha" that happens during such moments of happiness in our minds & hearts, it says when really happy the warmth we feel at the pit of our stomach is due to that "happy" hormones released to our body(isnt it kool, we have happy hormones right inside of us, n we look for happiness everywhere as if a working women is searching for her missing earing!!). I decided to lose weight, n honest confession is, I havnt even tried that hard!! I am sure all of u must hv secretly thought of small/big dreams on 31st Dec 2009, I urge you all to follow it, for life is about being happy...too.
"Happy" New Year.... :)
Thursday, October 29, 2009
But nights are a wagon of pain
Injuries may heal with time
But marks will always remain
Restless on my comfortable bed
I toss and turn and try to sleep
But thoughts are bulking my head
And have formed a huge heap
The past is flashing its scorching light beams
Tearing me apart , breaking me at the seams
The darkness of my life is more visible in the dark
And now I am trying to give it a voice , trying to speak my heart..
Thursday, August 13, 2009
The song from the movie "love Ajj Kal" - Yeh Dooriyan" ...... Its 1 of those songs u can listen to for hrs together... I have being hooked to the ipod & my phone, with only this 1 song.....
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
This is the link to it http://happy-blissfull.blogspot.com/2009_06_01_archive.html
Below is the blog....
Following our love is painful. Forgetting our love is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering "Said in Page 46,Book : By the River Piedra, I sat down and wept,Author : Paulo Coelho-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
It was around 3 a.m. on a rainy night. The moon was playing hide and seek in the dark clouds. And as a cool breeze blew melodiously to shave my face, I was there all alone in my room, by the window, with a novel in my hand.
“Following our love is painful. Forgetting our love is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering ”, I read in the book.
Something about those lines struck me hard. Something about those lines made me feel uneasy. Something about those lines made me immediately close the novel without reading it further. And something about those lines took me into my past.
“Given a chance Sai, I would want a life of which I have no desires and regrets”, said one of my best friends during a casual talk. “I neither want happiness nor do I want misery. I just do not want to desire for anything. Whatever I have desired for, I never got it anyways. So, I will take whatever life has to offer and not regret anything. That is the best way to live”, my friend finished.
It seemed a beautiful thought. But then, Something about those words pinched me as soon as I heard them.“ Is that possible ? ”, I asked my friend immediately.
“ What ? ”, asked my friend.“A life without regrets.. Is that possible at all ?”, I asked again.
“Yes Sai.. All you need is a lot of mental strength and a bad memory ;)”, my friend replied jocularly.
“Hmm..”, I said.
We changed topics and life moved on. But then those words continue to haunt me through the years. And tonight, as i was reading those lines in the novel, they only served as a gentle reminder for the unanswered question.
“Heyy heart, are you there ?” asked my mind.
“ Yes dear.. I am always there whenever you want to speak to me :)”, replied my heart sweetly.
“Ya Ya, I know.. So, what do you think about it ?”, asked my mind.
“About what ?”, asked my heart.
“About that only yaar.. The regret.. I have suffered enough now.. I want an answer. Do you think by not desiring anything and by having a bad memory, we can have a life of no regrets ?”
“Hmmm.. What made you think I would have an answer at all to that question ?”, asked my heart.
“Because ‘regret’ is a feeling. And as you always say, ‘feelings are your department and only you know and understand them’ ! ”, replied my mind.
“You have become intelligent in dealing with me.. haven’t you ?”, replied my heart.
“Hmm.. Years of experience with you have taught me that there is no point in arguing with you. So, I am resigned to understanding and accepting your ways”, replied my mind.
“That’s lovely dear.. But then, I still wonder what made you think I can answer that question and moreover, even if I did answer, what makes you think it would be the right one ? !”, asked my heart.
“Would you answer it or not ? Leave the reasoning and judging of its correctness to me.. Just answer !”, commanded my mind.
“Hmm.. There you go ! :) You have already answered that question and that too just now dear ! So, there is nothing left for me to say !”, replied my heart.
“What ? !! Are you crazy ? When and what did I answer ? Heart, I know that you are mad. So, do not prove it to me time and again ! Just talk straight and talk the point please”, said my mind frustrated.
“Hmm ok.. Dear, as you said regret is certainly a feeling ! And so it belongs to my department. But unfortunately, when you and your reasoning, you and your judging, and you and your decision making skills use my regretful ‘feelings’, then things, life and attitudes change !”, said my heart
“I didn’t understand.. Can you be clearer ?”, asked my mind.
“Hmm, let us take the novel’s story for instance. The girl is in love with the boy. Love - a feeling. But she does not have the courage to stand by it. Courage – a feeling. The absence of courage and the pain of his loss thereafter led her to regret it all. Regret – a feeling. And thereafter, she only used regret to make a decision about how her life should be led ahead. She used her ‘regret’ - reasoned, judged and decided - how life should be led from there on. Right or wrong, She decided, based on regret, she wouldn’t love him anymore. She decided, based on regret, that she wouldn’t risk anymore. She decided, based on regret, that she would be strong to never think of her love again. She decided, based on regret, that she would change and want nothing from life because she never got what she wanted in the first place ! She decided based on the regret that she would forget her past. And she made and followed all her decisions based on that one feeling and to avoid that one feeling – Regret !”, said my heart.
“Hmm.. ”, said my mind.
“And as you see dear, while there were three great feelings involved in the story - love, courage and regret – in the end, she used only regret to make all her decisions and and changed her life accordingly.”, said my heart.
“Hmm.. So do you say it is wrong ?”, my mind asked.
“It is not for me to say that dear. To reason it as right or wrong is your department. But then, did you think as to what has she got so far for all the decisions she made based on regret ? She got “Silence”, which she interprets as peace and which she treats as “no regrets” anymore !”, finished my heart.
“How do you know that its not peace, no regrets and only silence ?”, asked my mind.“Because, peace, regrets and silence are all feelings dear :)”, said my heart.
“Hmm.. So what do you say ? A life of no regrets is impossible ?”, asked my mind.
“No dear.. It certainly is possible”, replied my heart.
“Huh ? !! How is that possible ?”, asked my mind.
“Sai dear, every human being is bestowed two critical abilities - An ability to think and an ability to feel. But then which of the abilities is the master and which of the abilities is the slave is what makes the difference between loving our life and regretting our life”, said my heart.
“Hmm..”, said my mind.
“Dear, When you use our thinking to follow my love, when we together exhibit strength & endure the pain of our love, when we show courage to stand up for what we love - We begin to experience, live and love life. And in that lovely life no matter what troubles come in our way, no matter how painful those troubles may be, no matter how humiliating those troubles can be, and no matter how many sacrifices need to be made, in the end – Our love will win. Dear, Right from a simple love to study higher, or love to work in a creative field, or any love that you are passionate about - you have to use your thoughts, your hardwork, your time, your strength and even your pain, humiliation and sacrifices to go after what you love. In short, if you follow me and go after what I want, I can lead you to a life of where we don’t feel any regrets. But if I were forced to follow you and do what you want, I am sure we both will regret in the end. And that is because to follow your decisions in itself is a great regret for me. It is, for me, equivalent to accepting that the love i hold in me is something inferior to the thoughts and decisions you make.”, said my heart passionately.
“How dare you say that ? ! You say following me makes you regret ? ! Remember heart, It is my mental strength that keeps you unaffected of failures ! It is my mental strength that keeps you away from feeling miserable. It is I who save you from getting hurt ! And it is I and my intelligence who get you the respect people give you. And you say you regret following me ?”, retorted my mind angrily.
“Hmm dear.. What mental strength are you talking about ? Strength is in following what you love. Not in running away from it. And it is not me who is afraid of failures dear. It is you. It is not me who needs other’s respect. It is you. Remember Sai, in the end, the people whose words you are following, the people whose decisions you are living and the people whose respect you are craving for will all leave the world. They have to leave. The only person who will be with you is me and unfortunately you are making me ‘empty’ & ‘silent’. And with an ‘empty’ and ‘silent’ me, all you can do in the end is regret Sai. On the contrary, if you were to follow me, not care about what people say or think, not care about the rules established for you to follow, not be scared of the challenges that come your way, then in the end when you and me are alone, I’d have love, you’d have memories and together we would have ‘lived’.”, finished my heart.
“Hmm.. Sounds romantic ! But totally impractical. Who on earth would understand that I was following you and that I was in love and for love. Who would understand that I am and I would in the end not regret anything that I do ? And who would respect me for it ?”, asked my mind.
“Sai, when you understand yourself and when you don’t regret what you do.. there is no need for anyone else to understand you ! But when you don’t understand yourself and regret not having done what you wanted, it doesn’t matter who else understands you ! Because their understanding is of no use to you then ! Also, any respect out of such useless understanding, is worthless too. So, as long as you understand yourself and follow your love, even if the whole world thinks you are crazy, it'll make no difference to you. But then if you don’t understand yourself and cannot in the end justify what you did with your life, even if the whole world respects and understands you, it’d make no difference to you !”, replied my heart.
“Hmm.. And how do I know that what you have said is all the right thing to do ? ”
“Hmm.. Sai, in the matters of the heart and feelings, there are no right or wrong decisions. There are only “Human” decisions. And yet inspite of it all, if you want a proof, you’d see that when you are born as a human child Sai, you are expressing and seeking love. When you are dying all alone or amongst your loved ones, you are again expressing and seeking love. Even in between, at all the critical points of life, you are expressing and seeking the love of the almighty. And yet every time a decision to follow your love needs to be made, you “think” ! And it is such a shame Sai that you even think before following your love ! It is nothing more than an insult to the very love that you are born, brought up and die in. Just remember this one thing Sai – Greatness, respect, obedience, name, fame, satisfaction and peace may all lie in liking what you do and making me follow you, but then LIFE lies in doing what you love and making you follow me ! Remember Sai, we – the heart and the mind - only live once together in this world ! And who is the master and who is the slave is what will make the difference between love and regret over your life.”, said my heart.
My mind didn’t speak after that. I moved to my table, calmly opened and began reading the novel again. And as i turned page after page to read out what the girl in the story has eventually decided to do in her life, there was a storm in my heart & rain in my eyes.
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Another summer day
Has come and gone away
In Paris and Rome
But I wanna go home
May be surrounded byA million people I
Still feel all alone
I just wanna go home
Oh, I miss you, you know
And I’ve been keeping all the letters that I wrote to you
Each one a line or two
“I’m fine baby, how are you?”
Well I would send them but I know that it’s just not enough
My words were cold and flat
And you deserve more than that
Another sunny place
I’m lucky, I know
But I wanna go home
Mmmm, I’ve got to go home
Let me go home
I’m just too far from where you are
I wanna come home
And I feel just like I’m living someone else’s life
It’s like I just stepped outside
When everything was going right
And I know just why you could not
Come along with me'Cause this was not your dream
But you always believed in me
Another winter day has come
And gone away
In even Paris and Rome
And I wanna go home
Let me go home
And I’m surrounded byA million people I
Still feel all alone
Oh, let me go home
Oh, I miss you, you know
Let me go home
I’ve had my runBaby,
I’m doneI gotta go home
Let me go home
It will all be all right
I’ll be home tonightI’m coming back home
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
We all have our best days of our lives.... Generally the day when something v BIG happened in your life... Or may be many small things together... Your wedding,(may not be the best thing, but its definitely BIG ;)), your 1st job, ur 1st promotion, your 1st love, 1st kiss etc. Incidents like this together make memories, stories you tell your friends, ur grand children...
But I think u remember them, when u have people to share it with... sure you are not in isolation when ur getting married...but when its 2 the person u love, n when ur best frnds are around, thats when it becomes memorable... u recall all the silly jokes u guys must hv cracked abt ur marriage on the D day n laugh....feel nostalgic...so basically the "event" becomes "eventful" only when the right kind of people are around to share it with you.
I had 1 of such BIG events in my Life today, n sure I hv my family n my friends to share it with... but I dnt have the 1 person I want to share it with the most... The 1 person I always discussed this stuff with...n honestly m happy, but there is emptiness...Well life moves on n so will this...
Monday, July 13, 2009
Then 1 day... ur wearing the Tee n walking on da road, n u see your reflection on the glass window of a mall & u c the Tee, "yukssss!! Its bright yellow, its got White patches all over" its exactly the kind of Tacky clothes u comment on when ur out with ur frnds for coffee n a girl enters da coffee shop looking happy & wearing that!!! N then when da world looks @ u, u can literally hear their mind (with the drums in da background) " look @ da top!!".... "man that’s tooo tacky" " dnt look @ her"!!!u wanna run home & the moment ur home u remove it & through it in the corner of ur wardrobe... n u never wear the top again... :) Its always safe 2 listen 2 ur frnds...
After months while looking for another dress, u came acrosss the yellow top, n it reminds u of the time u used 2 get the attention when u wore the top all time... I guess in life, we need such yellow tops so that we know which are the good 1se, & learn to keep them handy to choose the right TOP ;)
Thursday, April 30, 2009
There are few songs which do not work well due to the music given to it, some because the words do not make sense! But what do we, as listeners connect to? n how does that help us enjoy the song? Some songs have weired words in them, yet work v well... like "dum dara dum dara wqt wqt..." tere bin of Guru, A.R Reheman compostion..
I cearly am confused n do not have a proper answer to it. But yes, I prefer songs with good lyrics. I wanna know how you guys determine your choice n why so!