The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge , but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Thursday, October 23, 2008
FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
Really wonderful article..... Had to blog.....
Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework. Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS: 1. TRUST 2. COMMUNICATION 3. INTIMACY 4. A SENSE OF HUMOR 5. SHARING TASKS 6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN 7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.) 8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS 9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE 10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework. Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS: 1. TRUST 2. COMMUNICATION 3. INTIMACY 4. A SENSE OF HUMOR 5. SHARING TASKS 6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN 7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.) 8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS 9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE 10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Father may have known best by Courtland Milloy
This is a write up mailed to me by 1 of my friends... Its a beautiful article about the current situation in the world economy....
Read on.....
It’s not like I didn’t get sound financial advice. My parents are children of the Great Depression who put great emphasis on building nest eggs and living within one’s means. They never forgot the words to Bing Crosby’s 1932 hard-knocks song “Brother, Can You Spare a Dime?”
But I wasn’t listening.
When a TV infomercial said I could buy a flat-ab squeezer and get a fountain-of-youth drink free if I called now, I called.
No wonder I’m broke.
After taking an early retirement a couple of years ago, I invested in what I had thought were two bedrocks of American economic life: newspapers and real estate. Now, as the nation faces the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression, my land deals are worth less than dirt, and my newspaper stocks are barely worth the paper they are printed on.
In the past four months, the value of my home has plummeted so low that I now owe more than it’s worth. As Wall Street posted a record point loss Monday, my financial portfolio was reduced to chump change.
Brother, can you spare a trillion dollars?
My parents’ financial wisdom would not have staved off the nation’s economic storm, but it might have helped me hedge my bets. Suddenly, the low-yield, low-risk treasury bills that they purchased through the years look much better than, say, the once high-yielding stock in Lehman Brothers. But I’m a baby boomer, a product of the narcissistic “age of desire.” Delayed gratification is anathema to me; I want quick returns. Get me a house, flip it, take the equity out. Repeat.
My parents used say to me, “Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” But in my later years, I figured out that if you stayed up late playing poker and won a big pot, then you could sleep late and still wake up feeling wealthy and wise, if not always healthy.
Now, visions of an economic depression have shattered all high-stakes poker fantasies. My parents had seen the food and unemployment lines, watched drifters riding the rails, heard the stories about people committing suicide after losing their savings in the stock market. Suddenly, that didn’t seem like a quaint parable from the past anymore. And their principles of responsible living apply today as much as the days before specialty coffeehouses.
I called Larry Bailey, a friend and accountant to the stars (such as Venus and Serena Williams), for advice on how to get out of this jam.
“When I go to Africa sometimes, I’ll come upon a place that has a total cash economy,” he said. “You don’t buy a car on credit; you save up until you can buy it outright. You don’t build a house until you have the cash to pay for it. You can build it in stages, one room at a time, but you have to pay as you go. Of course, nobody wants to go back to something like that, but if our economy is going to start expanding again, we’ll need to find a happier medium between using cash and relying on credit.”
It hurt just listening to him. But my parents had tried to warn me. Moderation in all things, they’d say. A fool and his money are soon parted.
— By arrangement with LA Times-Washington Post
Read on.....
It’s not like I didn’t get sound financial advice. My parents are children of the Great Depression who put great emphasis on building nest eggs and living within one’s means. They never forgot the words to Bing Crosby’s 1932 hard-knocks song “Brother, Can You Spare a Dime?”
But I wasn’t listening.
When a TV infomercial said I could buy a flat-ab squeezer and get a fountain-of-youth drink free if I called now, I called.
No wonder I’m broke.
After taking an early retirement a couple of years ago, I invested in what I had thought were two bedrocks of American economic life: newspapers and real estate. Now, as the nation faces the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression, my land deals are worth less than dirt, and my newspaper stocks are barely worth the paper they are printed on.
In the past four months, the value of my home has plummeted so low that I now owe more than it’s worth. As Wall Street posted a record point loss Monday, my financial portfolio was reduced to chump change.
Brother, can you spare a trillion dollars?
My parents’ financial wisdom would not have staved off the nation’s economic storm, but it might have helped me hedge my bets. Suddenly, the low-yield, low-risk treasury bills that they purchased through the years look much better than, say, the once high-yielding stock in Lehman Brothers. But I’m a baby boomer, a product of the narcissistic “age of desire.” Delayed gratification is anathema to me; I want quick returns. Get me a house, flip it, take the equity out. Repeat.
My parents used say to me, “Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” But in my later years, I figured out that if you stayed up late playing poker and won a big pot, then you could sleep late and still wake up feeling wealthy and wise, if not always healthy.
Now, visions of an economic depression have shattered all high-stakes poker fantasies. My parents had seen the food and unemployment lines, watched drifters riding the rails, heard the stories about people committing suicide after losing their savings in the stock market. Suddenly, that didn’t seem like a quaint parable from the past anymore. And their principles of responsible living apply today as much as the days before specialty coffeehouses.
I called Larry Bailey, a friend and accountant to the stars (such as Venus and Serena Williams), for advice on how to get out of this jam.
“When I go to Africa sometimes, I’ll come upon a place that has a total cash economy,” he said. “You don’t buy a car on credit; you save up until you can buy it outright. You don’t build a house until you have the cash to pay for it. You can build it in stages, one room at a time, but you have to pay as you go. Of course, nobody wants to go back to something like that, but if our economy is going to start expanding again, we’ll need to find a happier medium between using cash and relying on credit.”
It hurt just listening to him. But my parents had tried to warn me. Moderation in all things, they’d say. A fool and his money are soon parted.
— By arrangement with LA Times-Washington Post
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Serendipity
Do you guys remember this old movie?? I just happen to c it tonight & the thought crossed my mind of how true is this really!! lemme give a lil gist of the movie for those who hvnt seen it, its about 2 strangers who meet accidently during christmas in a shopping mall in NY & the girl truely beleives in Fate/Destiny.... so they set 2 things for eachother 2 find, how they both finally meet n live happily ever after....
The word "Serendipity" means, happy accidents... Its a cute thought... but does it really exsist?? Do we all beleive that fate has its way to find things for us??? some say life is just a disaster personified!! WHich is true??? which would you beleive? Do u need to be crazy to be happy? or is there a 5 step process to happiness??
happy Thinkin....
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Finding way back into love
I’ve been living with a shadow overhead
I’ve been sleeping with a cloud above my bed
I’ve been lonely for so long Trapped in the past, I just can’t seem to move onI’ve been hiding all my hopes and dreams away
Just in case I ever need em again someday
I’ve been setting aside timeTo clear a little space in the corners of my mindAll I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into loveI’ve been watching but the stars refuse to shine
I’ve been searching but I just don’t see the signs I know that it’s out there
There’s got to be something for my soul somewhereI’ve been looking for someone to shed some light
Not somebody just to get me through the nightI could use some direction
And I’m open to your suggestionsAll I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart again
I guess I’m hoping you’ll be there for me in the endThere are moments when I don’t know if it’s real
Or if anybody feels the way I feel
I need inspiration Not just another negotiationAll I want to do is find a way back into love
I can’t make it through without a way back into love
And if I open my heart to you, I’m hoping you’ll show me what to do
And if you help me to start again
You know that I’ll be there for you in the end
I’ve Heard This song, when i watch the Movie Music N Lyrics, simple song but nice..
Friday, August 29, 2008
What is the most IMP thing in life
We can say this is a million dollar question, or highly philosophical question - "What is the most IMP thing in life?".
People will say its different for different people, its a combination of different things or happenings. Its all relative! so on n so forth! But my take on this is different! I do think its different. I think its same & the only thing most IMP thing is "LOVE"! The feeling of being in "LOVE" or being "Happy". Please do not misunderstand this as a teenage blog!
When I go to buy fruits, the vendor is happy when his fruits are all sold... He thinks selling all the fruits is the most IMP thing, but ground zero basic is, the feeling that he gets... I am a recruiter by profession, and when I achieve a given target, I feel happy, n all month all I strive to "achive" the target! But the bliss is what we look for, and teh target is an agent which gives us that bliss.
Now if we hold the above explanation true, why dnt we consider the” feeling" factor in today’s world? If you ask a practical person, he will answer, the most IMP thing in life is money, respect, self dependency. If a child asks his parents, they will say for you its the marks.... & if the child fails to achieve, he has lost on the most IMP thing??? Everyday everyone of us, have so many millions of such small incidents which make a complete day, yet non of us even considers the very "heart of matters", Literally! why??? I dunno... Its for you guys to tell me?
For me the most Imp thing in life is the feeling of being in "LOVE" with "happiness"!! :)
People will say its different for different people, its a combination of different things or happenings. Its all relative! so on n so forth! But my take on this is different! I do think its different. I think its same & the only thing most IMP thing is "LOVE"! The feeling of being in "LOVE" or being "Happy". Please do not misunderstand this as a teenage blog!
When I go to buy fruits, the vendor is happy when his fruits are all sold... He thinks selling all the fruits is the most IMP thing, but ground zero basic is, the feeling that he gets... I am a recruiter by profession, and when I achieve a given target, I feel happy, n all month all I strive to "achive" the target! But the bliss is what we look for, and teh target is an agent which gives us that bliss.
Now if we hold the above explanation true, why dnt we consider the” feeling" factor in today’s world? If you ask a practical person, he will answer, the most IMP thing in life is money, respect, self dependency. If a child asks his parents, they will say for you its the marks.... & if the child fails to achieve, he has lost on the most IMP thing??? Everyday everyone of us, have so many millions of such small incidents which make a complete day, yet non of us even considers the very "heart of matters", Literally! why??? I dunno... Its for you guys to tell me?
For me the most Imp thing in life is the feeling of being in "LOVE" with "happiness"!! :)
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Save the spark dude!!
Chetan Bhagat's speech for BBA program Students in Symbosis! Its simple & kool! :)
THOUGHT I should should share this with you
Thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.
The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates - there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party - several months in advance - just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn't the purpose of life.
If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday? They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said - don't be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live?
Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure.
Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? Is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades - how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.Disappointment' s cousin is frustration, the second storm. Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release.
Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved - movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result - at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan - I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.Unfairness - this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it - not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards.
Let's be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok. Don't let unfairness kill your spark.Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends.
And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from the land of a billion sparks.Thank You.Chetan Bhagat.
THOUGHT I should should share this with you
Thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.
The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates - there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party - several months in advance - just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn't the purpose of life.
If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday? They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said - don't be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live?
Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure.
Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? Is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades - how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.Disappointment' s cousin is frustration, the second storm. Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release.
Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved - movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result - at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan - I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.Unfairness - this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it - not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards.
Let's be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok. Don't let unfairness kill your spark.Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends.
And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from the land of a billion sparks.Thank You.Chetan Bhagat.
When the inside aches
Life is said to be full of surprises & shocks!! Yet if you look properly we see it’s actually a patter of the similar activities over n over again. It’s like the 3 seasons of the year. Summer - Harsh and humid, Rainy - gray and moist & winter - cold and numb!
I guess it’s the way of looking @ things. All these days I loved rainy season specially cause it brought a lotta happiness in my heart! I loved watching the rains for hours together, let alone the fun of getting wet or having roasted corn!! But this rainy season has being so callous to me! Everyday the rain has come and I have not being able to enjoy any of it! If I stood for a while & looked @ the drops being dropped I was treated as "insane" and looked upon is such a way that its so wrong to look at falling water!! Now I do not know, it’s the way people look, or was I crazy to find happiness in simple things in life. The rain, a simple walk, panipuri by the corner of the street, etc. made me happy all these time, but now people tell me its not sane! The inside of me aches to hear things so rude n harsh it changes the very foundation of my cheerfulness! You shouldn’t be happy with small things, nor should little things worry you! Life is becoming a boring subject taught by a strict professor for endless hours!!
I know many of you good people out there will advice me not to pay heat to such annotations and look at life the way I have being looking and not let other things influence the establishment in me! But consider you being in my place and you shouting on the top of your voice trying to make yourself clear & you r telling it to some1 who you trust and who has asked you 2 share, but you repeat the same things, n he puts it down saying, you are "conspiring" against his happiness, wishes, hopes, life!! How do you guys deal with such situations! You walk out or you stay and clarify or be patient? Which is the brave thing to do? Walk away from some1 who trusted your life with, or stay and c your values being shattered by the same person!! I realize now, its so easy to advice people, but when it comes to implementing things you have said to every broken hearted friend is actually not that easy to do! n in my case, I cnt speak my heart out!! So its wee bit more difficult! It really aches inside!!
I guess it’s the way of looking @ things. All these days I loved rainy season specially cause it brought a lotta happiness in my heart! I loved watching the rains for hours together, let alone the fun of getting wet or having roasted corn!! But this rainy season has being so callous to me! Everyday the rain has come and I have not being able to enjoy any of it! If I stood for a while & looked @ the drops being dropped I was treated as "insane" and looked upon is such a way that its so wrong to look at falling water!! Now I do not know, it’s the way people look, or was I crazy to find happiness in simple things in life. The rain, a simple walk, panipuri by the corner of the street, etc. made me happy all these time, but now people tell me its not sane! The inside of me aches to hear things so rude n harsh it changes the very foundation of my cheerfulness! You shouldn’t be happy with small things, nor should little things worry you! Life is becoming a boring subject taught by a strict professor for endless hours!!
I know many of you good people out there will advice me not to pay heat to such annotations and look at life the way I have being looking and not let other things influence the establishment in me! But consider you being in my place and you shouting on the top of your voice trying to make yourself clear & you r telling it to some1 who you trust and who has asked you 2 share, but you repeat the same things, n he puts it down saying, you are "conspiring" against his happiness, wishes, hopes, life!! How do you guys deal with such situations! You walk out or you stay and clarify or be patient? Which is the brave thing to do? Walk away from some1 who trusted your life with, or stay and c your values being shattered by the same person!! I realize now, its so easy to advice people, but when it comes to implementing things you have said to every broken hearted friend is actually not that easy to do! n in my case, I cnt speak my heart out!! So its wee bit more difficult! It really aches inside!!
Monday, July 28, 2008
Rain Rain came again!!!
Its 28th July 2008, I am sitting in my Airoli office, and really bored! The weather outside is wonderful and romantic!! Its being raining in Mumbai for last 2 days now, and 2day its worst, & so, other branches left by 4:30pm! People are all waiting here for the time to turn to 6:45pm, so that every1 gets to go home! Rain has become a part n parcel of Mumbaites. But over the years what has being more palpable is the water logging!!!
If I recall, during the time when I used 2 go 2 school, every monsoon we used to just have 1 day when school would shut down during after like 3-4 lectures and all of us used to get all blissful & walk back home in rain and waist deep water logged!! But now a days, its like become 1 se in every month of all 4 months of monsoon! It’s sad to see, even when we say the country is moving ahead towards becoming an super power, something as necessary as drainage system is going from bad to worst! I still think of a good rainy day as a beautiful, quixotic day, but the fact is, there r millions on the streets of the city who will very easily loose their homes, worst are those who don’t have a house and die of cold and the water - born diseases! It’s really shame thinking about the current state of affairs of this country where 24 blasts happen within span of 48 hrs, and the citie’s financial capital has no choice but to shut down, due to rains.
If I recall, during the time when I used 2 go 2 school, every monsoon we used to just have 1 day when school would shut down during after like 3-4 lectures and all of us used to get all blissful & walk back home in rain and waist deep water logged!! But now a days, its like become 1 se in every month of all 4 months of monsoon! It’s sad to see, even when we say the country is moving ahead towards becoming an super power, something as necessary as drainage system is going from bad to worst! I still think of a good rainy day as a beautiful, quixotic day, but the fact is, there r millions on the streets of the city who will very easily loose their homes, worst are those who don’t have a house and die of cold and the water - born diseases! It’s really shame thinking about the current state of affairs of this country where 24 blasts happen within span of 48 hrs, and the citie’s financial capital has no choice but to shut down, due to rains.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
My Silence
My Silence speaks
Though it doesn’t have words
My Silence is a conversation
Though it doesn’t sound
My Silence is profound
Though it mean superficial to others
My Silence is an expression
Though it cannot be heard
My Silence is my inner light.
Light that bridges the bay between my life's success
and my life's failures
My Silence is a presence
Presence of great nothingness
My Silence is a mystery
that will forever go unsolved
With my silence I hid the truth, expressing fear
Fear of hurting those who might not accept what I feel…
With my silence I hid my feelings, registering no care
Care for those who real mean to me….
With my silence I hid my thoughts, refusing to share
Share with those who can never understand me…
I hope of finding someone someday
who can understand the right meaning of my mind’s say
Though it doesn’t have words
My Silence is a conversation
Though it doesn’t sound
My Silence is profound
Though it mean superficial to others
My Silence is an expression
Though it cannot be heard
My Silence is my inner light.
Light that bridges the bay between my life's success
and my life's failures
My Silence is a presence
Presence of great nothingness
My Silence is a mystery
that will forever go unsolved
With my silence I hid the truth, expressing fear
Fear of hurting those who might not accept what I feel…
With my silence I hid my feelings, registering no care
Care for those who real mean to me….
With my silence I hid my thoughts, refusing to share
Share with those who can never understand me…
I hope of finding someone someday
who can understand the right meaning of my mind’s say
Saturday, July 5, 2008
My 22nd Birthday
Last weekend was my 22nd Birthday, n since then I hvnt got time to blog this memeorable birthay!! So here it goes....
Put in my sister's words, she had planned a 48 hrs, birthday for me, from saturday morning to sunday evening! Saturday morning marked the sart of the "48hrs" birthday party! bro planned a 1 day trip to Lonavala(hilstn quite near 2 Mumbai)... June end marks the beginning of Monsoon in Mumbai, so the way up2 lonavala, was a bliss by itself! Luss green mountains on both sides of the road & beautiful & breath taking water falls! It kept raining on n off....& it was a total refreshment from the noice & crowd back in the city! The whole day was a special "close enchanment" with nature, including bath on a fresh waterfall to looking at the whole Sayadri Ranges from a clif point called "lion's point" it was really in a true sense mesmerizing!!...All in all 28th June 2008, could be comfortablly marked as I of my good days, in this year yet....
Eve of my birthday, wasnt so gr8, cause I was sleepy & slept before 12!! I know I know, you must be thinking I am the most boring person available on planet earth!!! Well morning marked the beginning of the gifts & love showering!! Mom n dad gave their presents, so did my sis!! She also took the pain of ordering my fav chocolate cake from birdies & I cut the 1st cake for my birthday.... :) Later Bro again planned out a surpise outside.... After being with them for like till 6, I went 2 meet my pal Nikhil...He asked me for a quite diner with him, which was need of the hr considering I was getting quite tired by now!!
But then again was another very wonderful surprise party, which he had taken all da pains 2 organise, calling my friends he hadnt ever meet before & office frnds from other corner of the city took all the pain 2 come to my brithday party!! I was really touched by this jesture as it was personal & made me feel really nice.... Now this party marked the 2nd birthday cake!! The party was bacially a chill @ an hang out place with hooka n stuff... This got over @ about 10, and with a sure hope that dis is all stored for my birthday this year, I came back home.. Here my mom's best frnd surprises me with yet another cake n gifts!! I cut the 3rd cake @ 11 in the nite! Sure was an 48 hrs jam packed weekend birthday....
With all of this, mom like every year had cooked awesome lunch & diner for me!! n in the long list of gifts that I got includes, perfumes, chocolates, umbrellas(I was dieing for 1, n I got 2), clothes, jewellery, watch, bag, u name it n I got it!! n most importantly I realized how IMP I am to so many people on this earth.... :) I realized my importance in people's life & hope 2 always keep up every1z expectations.... Thanks 2 each n every1 who contributed for my lovely birthday....
Put in my sister's words, she had planned a 48 hrs, birthday for me, from saturday morning to sunday evening! Saturday morning marked the sart of the "48hrs" birthday party! bro planned a 1 day trip to Lonavala(hilstn quite near 2 Mumbai)... June end marks the beginning of Monsoon in Mumbai, so the way up2 lonavala, was a bliss by itself! Luss green mountains on both sides of the road & beautiful & breath taking water falls! It kept raining on n off....& it was a total refreshment from the noice & crowd back in the city! The whole day was a special "close enchanment" with nature, including bath on a fresh waterfall to looking at the whole Sayadri Ranges from a clif point called "lion's point" it was really in a true sense mesmerizing!!...All in all 28th June 2008, could be comfortablly marked as I of my good days, in this year yet....
Eve of my birthday, wasnt so gr8, cause I was sleepy & slept before 12!! I know I know, you must be thinking I am the most boring person available on planet earth!!! Well morning marked the beginning of the gifts & love showering!! Mom n dad gave their presents, so did my sis!! She also took the pain of ordering my fav chocolate cake from birdies & I cut the 1st cake for my birthday.... :) Later Bro again planned out a surpise outside.... After being with them for like till 6, I went 2 meet my pal Nikhil...He asked me for a quite diner with him, which was need of the hr considering I was getting quite tired by now!!
But then again was another very wonderful surprise party, which he had taken all da pains 2 organise, calling my friends he hadnt ever meet before & office frnds from other corner of the city took all the pain 2 come to my brithday party!! I was really touched by this jesture as it was personal & made me feel really nice.... Now this party marked the 2nd birthday cake!! The party was bacially a chill @ an hang out place with hooka n stuff... This got over @ about 10, and with a sure hope that dis is all stored for my birthday this year, I came back home.. Here my mom's best frnd surprises me with yet another cake n gifts!! I cut the 3rd cake @ 11 in the nite! Sure was an 48 hrs jam packed weekend birthday....
With all of this, mom like every year had cooked awesome lunch & diner for me!! n in the long list of gifts that I got includes, perfumes, chocolates, umbrellas(I was dieing for 1, n I got 2), clothes, jewellery, watch, bag, u name it n I got it!! n most importantly I realized how IMP I am to so many people on this earth.... :) I realized my importance in people's life & hope 2 always keep up every1z expectations.... Thanks 2 each n every1 who contributed for my lovely birthday....
Monday, June 16, 2008
The Week that was..
This is 1 of those random posts just about nothing! to tell you the truth, I practically do not remember how was last monday or tuesday!! I know wednesday was MetLife call, which as usual was boring went on n on over the same issues! The whole point of having a meeting/call/discussion is so fake!! I mean every week for the last 6 months the call has being over same issues!! Anyways, thatz always the highlight of "wednesdays!". Thrusday, well I guess I had my 4th joinee of the month, I think its also lame cause I used have such nice nos. before!!! yes thrusday marked the commencement of my worst weekend!! It dragged till like Sunday night & continued monday morning i.e today!!!
Well I guess its somewhere my fault or all of it!! I do not know!! to tell you frankly, I am not expecting to much of this week as well!! I mean its said the way people look @ things!! N yes, I am very very - ve,
SO hears cheers to another loosy week(end)!!!
Well I guess its somewhere my fault or all of it!! I do not know!! to tell you frankly, I am not expecting to much of this week as well!! I mean its said the way people look @ things!! N yes, I am very very - ve,
SO hears cheers to another loosy week(end)!!!
Monday, May 26, 2008
When Winter stays forever
This is not a very happy Blog! This is 1 of those days (months), when you start to feel this cold winter and the numbness will never end!! You want all sorts of un-realistic things, like turning back time, getting something stupid and feel that is the only that can make you happy!!! The sad songs hit your ears and you are alone in a room, in your office cubical or in a crowded bus/train/road! The fact that you are alone remains fresh into your herat, head and mind. Life seems to be on a long hault, everyday you wake up & the emptiness hits you...gets to you!!
Its not that we do not have a way out, its just that we are paralized not to take the way out!! I know people say, life has its ups and downs, & everytime its(life) at its all time low I tell myself, it cannot get worst! & sun has to shine now, the tunnel has to end and light will be seen any moment from now!! But now I long for the sun & the light, which never seem to be coming! Now I have reached a phase that, good things are just a pass by and the bad things are here to stay!! I know I am being - ve to the core and this will seem stupid, when I read my own words at a later date! But do you guys think I will forget the pain this day or this time of my life gives me??? I know out of the 60-65 yrs (may be) that I will live, this few months will seem like an lil drop in the vast ocean of life, but isnt it not true, that every drop 2gether makes it an ocean!!
I know for sure life is not as bad as it looks!! I know this is in my head & I know I am being over sensitive. People say its always right to listen 2 the head and do what is the "obvious" right!(logical, a=b=c). The heart is somehow always saying the opposite! These days my heart has kinda stopped talking to me atall!! I ask for solution, as I know its only the heart who will make me do the right things!! I wait for it to stop being mad @ me n speak again!!!
I know I will be out of this, and will be happy again....I know I am here cause God wants me 2 learn a lesson in this, there has to something good to this, and I am yet searching for the right answer, the right lesson.....Till then I just hope for the WINTER to get over and Sun to shine again!!! Miss those who always were with me!!
Its not that we do not have a way out, its just that we are paralized not to take the way out!! I know people say, life has its ups and downs, & everytime its(life) at its all time low I tell myself, it cannot get worst! & sun has to shine now, the tunnel has to end and light will be seen any moment from now!! But now I long for the sun & the light, which never seem to be coming! Now I have reached a phase that, good things are just a pass by and the bad things are here to stay!! I know I am being - ve to the core and this will seem stupid, when I read my own words at a later date! But do you guys think I will forget the pain this day or this time of my life gives me??? I know out of the 60-65 yrs (may be) that I will live, this few months will seem like an lil drop in the vast ocean of life, but isnt it not true, that every drop 2gether makes it an ocean!!
I know for sure life is not as bad as it looks!! I know this is in my head & I know I am being over sensitive. People say its always right to listen 2 the head and do what is the "obvious" right!(logical, a=b=c). The heart is somehow always saying the opposite! These days my heart has kinda stopped talking to me atall!! I ask for solution, as I know its only the heart who will make me do the right things!! I wait for it to stop being mad @ me n speak again!!!
I know I will be out of this, and will be happy again....I know I am here cause God wants me 2 learn a lesson in this, there has to something good to this, and I am yet searching for the right answer, the right lesson.....Till then I just hope for the WINTER to get over and Sun to shine again!!! Miss those who always were with me!!
Sunday, May 18, 2008
The Summer that died
I could breathe you in
as if air was tight with beauty.
I could wash your tender,
sweet tasting skin,
but only in a dreamin which you would walk toward me.
I hear past conversations
in which we grasped and wrestledwith each other's words.
I listen to friends when they talk of her,
but ignore them when it should be heard.
She reminds me of a shadow,
cowering on behind the moonlight.
I remembered when you walked,
the wind stripped your shadow,
the trees bonded with the breezeand my heart lay naked to your spirit,
and as those days ended,
it became the Summer that died
as if air was tight with beauty.
I could wash your tender,
sweet tasting skin,
but only in a dreamin which you would walk toward me.
I hear past conversations
in which we grasped and wrestledwith each other's words.
I listen to friends when they talk of her,
but ignore them when it should be heard.
She reminds me of a shadow,
cowering on behind the moonlight.
I remembered when you walked,
the wind stripped your shadow,
the trees bonded with the breezeand my heart lay naked to your spirit,
and as those days ended,
it became the Summer that died
An Evening on the streets of Colaba..
Saturday 17th May 2008 was a remarkable day for my sis MSA! Reason - 1st so called "outing" in the whole of 2 months vaccation she is being "enjoying"!!! So we headed to do what girls are best known to have done, apart from crying & bitching (thankfully, we arnt best in any of them) SHOPPING!!!
Its like such a stress buster this "Shopping" thingy!!! Seriously!! We left home at about 4, and reached the place @ 6, after traveling like more than 30 kms, to this not so small street called "Colaba" rite behind Gate Way of India, Mumbai! So it all started with searching clothes for her and ended with buying loads of junk jewllery! The "search for the best" attitude makes it all the more exciting! & yea for 1se you can decide what u think is the rite price!!!
But more than all this, the whole street is full of firangs, trying to buy Souvenirs from India, cheap jewelley, the cafe LEO, a place where u apparently get the world's best Crispy chicken! The small roadside shops are really colourful & even if its really humid in Mumbai @ this time of the yr, its not so bad to spend like 3 yrs on that street!!! Its something about the place that makes you wanna come back!!! Its a strange mixed pot of culture and kind of people out there....
You walk like 1 street behind this place, you land up near hotel Taj Mahal and the Gateway Of India! Thtz 1 place you shouldnt be on a Saturday evening!! Its like any busy stn of Mumbai! But the only difference is, this time the run is not cause 2 earn their bread, but 2 getout of that run!!!
Cheers to the spirit of the City that never stops running !!!
Its like such a stress buster this "Shopping" thingy!!! Seriously!! We left home at about 4, and reached the place @ 6, after traveling like more than 30 kms, to this not so small street called "Colaba" rite behind Gate Way of India, Mumbai! So it all started with searching clothes for her and ended with buying loads of junk jewllery! The "search for the best" attitude makes it all the more exciting! & yea for 1se you can decide what u think is the rite price!!!
But more than all this, the whole street is full of firangs, trying to buy Souvenirs from India, cheap jewelley, the cafe LEO, a place where u apparently get the world's best Crispy chicken! The small roadside shops are really colourful & even if its really humid in Mumbai @ this time of the yr, its not so bad to spend like 3 yrs on that street!!! Its something about the place that makes you wanna come back!!! Its a strange mixed pot of culture and kind of people out there....
You walk like 1 street behind this place, you land up near hotel Taj Mahal and the Gateway Of India! Thtz 1 place you shouldnt be on a Saturday evening!! Its like any busy stn of Mumbai! But the only difference is, this time the run is not cause 2 earn their bread, but 2 getout of that run!!!
Cheers to the spirit of the City that never stops running !!!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Quotes - Good 1se
Following is a mail forward!! Its awesome and each is 1 of a kind!! Enjoy!!!
If time doesn't wait for you, don't worry!
--------------- Just remove the damn battery from the clock and Enjoy life!
Expecting the world to treat u fairly coz u r a good person
--------------------------is like, expecting the lion not to attack u coz u r a vegetarian. (Think about it.)
Don't walk as if you rule the world, walk as if you don't care who rules the world!Now that's Attitude…!!!
Every lady hopes that her daughter will marry a better man than she did-----------------------and is convinced that her son will never find a wife as good as his father did!!!
He was a good man. He never smoked, drank & had no affairs.When he died, the insurance company refused the claim.-----------------------------They said, he who never lived, cannot die! (Point to be noted)
A man threw his wife in a pond of Crocodiles?
----------------------He's now being harassed by the Animal Rights Activists for being cruel to the Crocodiles! (so rude!!)
So many options for suicide:
Poison, sleeping pills, hanging, jumping from a building, lying on train tracks,
---------------------------but we chose Marriage, slow & sure!
Only 20 percent girls have brains,
---------------------------the rest have boyfriends! (v true!! heheh)
All desirable things in life are either
--------------------------- illegal, banned, expensive or married to someone else!
Laziness is our biggest enemy-Jawaharlal Nehru
We should learn to love our enemies- Mahatma Gandhi
10% of road accidents are due to drunken driving.
Which makes it a logical statement that
--------------90% of accidents are due to driving without drinking!
If time doesn't wait for you, don't worry!
--------------- Just remove the damn battery from the clock and Enjoy life!
Expecting the world to treat u fairly coz u r a good person
--------------------------is like, expecting the lion not to attack u coz u r a vegetarian. (Think about it.)
Don't walk as if you rule the world, walk as if you don't care who rules the world!Now that's Attitude…!!!
Every lady hopes that her daughter will marry a better man than she did-----------------------and is convinced that her son will never find a wife as good as his father did!!!
He was a good man. He never smoked, drank & had no affairs.When he died, the insurance company refused the claim.-----------------------------They said, he who never lived, cannot die! (Point to be noted)
A man threw his wife in a pond of Crocodiles?
----------------------He's now being harassed by the Animal Rights Activists for being cruel to the Crocodiles! (so rude!!)
So many options for suicide:
Poison, sleeping pills, hanging, jumping from a building, lying on train tracks,
---------------------------but we chose Marriage, slow & sure!
Only 20 percent girls have brains,
---------------------------the rest have boyfriends! (v true!! heheh)
All desirable things in life are either
--------------------------- illegal, banned, expensive or married to someone else!
Laziness is our biggest enemy-Jawaharlal Nehru
We should learn to love our enemies- Mahatma Gandhi
10% of road accidents are due to drunken driving.
Which makes it a logical statement that
--------------90% of accidents are due to driving without drinking!
Monday, April 28, 2008
Wish List :)
Last satruday, I was out with my my friends, when we came to this topic of "WISH LIST"!!! 1 of my friend is of the opinion, that she has a wish list in mind for God, which she will show God, as what she thinks needs to be changed on earth!! I was very thrilled, and thought "this is definately goin on my blog page"......
So following is my "Wish List" to God. Though, I am sure, since he is the creater, he will have answers to all of these wishes, yet I think its a kool idea, atleast 2 help God, in making earth a better place....
Dear God,
Thanks for sending me to this place you made so beautifully!! Here are 5 most IMP points, I felt I din like.
1. Guys should face, atleast some of the pains that a girl goes through, during the whole process of reproduction.
2. The reproduction process(time taken) for of trees and plants should be shortnend! (I know I am being selfish, since we are the cause of their death!!!)
3. Please re-format, human brains & show them real value of things you made, rather than things they made(money)!!!
4. All deseases should have cure and death should come only 1se satisfied with life....let me emphasize, satisfied and content not tired and given-up!!
5. Most imp of all, please tell each of us, who our soul mate is, so that we do not end up hurting our/others heart! Probably you do not have to say, where to find him/her. We will do the finding!
Loads of love,
Deya
These are a set of my 5 "WISH LIST"!! I would encourage all readers to kindly make a small wish list of theirs and post!!
So following is my "Wish List" to God. Though, I am sure, since he is the creater, he will have answers to all of these wishes, yet I think its a kool idea, atleast 2 help God, in making earth a better place....
Dear God,
Thanks for sending me to this place you made so beautifully!! Here are 5 most IMP points, I felt I din like.
1. Guys should face, atleast some of the pains that a girl goes through, during the whole process of reproduction.
2. The reproduction process(time taken) for of trees and plants should be shortnend! (I know I am being selfish, since we are the cause of their death!!!)
3. Please re-format, human brains & show them real value of things you made, rather than things they made(money)!!!
4. All deseases should have cure and death should come only 1se satisfied with life....let me emphasize, satisfied and content not tired and given-up!!
5. Most imp of all, please tell each of us, who our soul mate is, so that we do not end up hurting our/others heart! Probably you do not have to say, where to find him/her. We will do the finding!
Loads of love,
Deya
These are a set of my 5 "WISH LIST"!! I would encourage all readers to kindly make a small wish list of theirs and post!!
Monday, April 21, 2008
Real Heros : CNN IBN Initiative
This weekend was a perfect "chilling @ home" weekend! Since MSA's exams were done, we had ample time to just chill out @ home....On saturday night I happenend to watch this 1 award function which was 1 of its kind, and inspired me to blog it!!
This was an award function for the "real heros", in the sense the people who are actually making difference @ ground level. People from various feilds of work, were nominated and during the award function, their story and work were shown!! It gave me goosebumps Wintessing such heros! Medocs, education, small scale industries, people all over the place are doing things to make up for a better future! I wouldnt remember the names, but the deeds that really stuck to my mind are some follows:-
In Banagalore, there is 1 person who has started a small scale industires, where by they are making roads out of plastic! I mean what better way to put plastic to use!! Apparently 550Km of Bangalore roads are now made of plastic!!! Hats off to you buddy!!
In Ladakh, there is 1 ex-major general, who is called the "glacier man"!! Reaons:- All round the year irrigation is possible in Lakadk, thanks to him, he is found a way to preserve the "glasiers" and that water is used for irrigation!!!
In a rural part of Maharashtra, the girls school was far away from the village, and due to this drop out rates grew higher! There is this female who was awarded for her simple solution, i.e she started giving cycles for hire to the girls of that village, and it actally dropped the rates of girl drop-outs!! This truely shows, you do not need to be a scientist to help...... If you have the determination to help, you will automatically find the solution!
Lastly, "mission 30".... This is started in Patna, for the children of "rickshaw walas", or really poor and financially unstable students. 30 students are hand picked by the 2 founders and full training is givin to these 30, to get ready for IIT s....They are given food, training and stay free of cost and trained to take up AIEEE!!! And even better their enrolment ratio is as high as 95%!!! Its such a noble cause, for these guys never even must have dreamt to get into such insititutes!!!
There were many more such stories! All I would like to say is, they are also humans like us, and with same kind of heart as us! Its only their determination to do something, that makes them such "HEROS"!!! I was thinking, even if I help a friend and it gets actually fruitful, I feel so satisfied, think of these people, they have a purpose in life! They can actually stand and say, I am doing something for my country, for mankind!!!
I really hope we all find our purposes in life and help atleast 2 human beings, in a more solid and constructive way!!
This was an award function for the "real heros", in the sense the people who are actually making difference @ ground level. People from various feilds of work, were nominated and during the award function, their story and work were shown!! It gave me goosebumps Wintessing such heros! Medocs, education, small scale industries, people all over the place are doing things to make up for a better future! I wouldnt remember the names, but the deeds that really stuck to my mind are some follows:-
In Banagalore, there is 1 person who has started a small scale industires, where by they are making roads out of plastic! I mean what better way to put plastic to use!! Apparently 550Km of Bangalore roads are now made of plastic!!! Hats off to you buddy!!
In Ladakh, there is 1 ex-major general, who is called the "glacier man"!! Reaons:- All round the year irrigation is possible in Lakadk, thanks to him, he is found a way to preserve the "glasiers" and that water is used for irrigation!!!
In a rural part of Maharashtra, the girls school was far away from the village, and due to this drop out rates grew higher! There is this female who was awarded for her simple solution, i.e she started giving cycles for hire to the girls of that village, and it actally dropped the rates of girl drop-outs!! This truely shows, you do not need to be a scientist to help...... If you have the determination to help, you will automatically find the solution!
Lastly, "mission 30".... This is started in Patna, for the children of "rickshaw walas", or really poor and financially unstable students. 30 students are hand picked by the 2 founders and full training is givin to these 30, to get ready for IIT s....They are given food, training and stay free of cost and trained to take up AIEEE!!! And even better their enrolment ratio is as high as 95%!!! Its such a noble cause, for these guys never even must have dreamt to get into such insititutes!!!
There were many more such stories! All I would like to say is, they are also humans like us, and with same kind of heart as us! Its only their determination to do something, that makes them such "HEROS"!!! I was thinking, even if I help a friend and it gets actually fruitful, I feel so satisfied, think of these people, they have a purpose in life! They can actually stand and say, I am doing something for my country, for mankind!!!
I really hope we all find our purposes in life and help atleast 2 human beings, in a more solid and constructive way!!
Sunday, March 30, 2008
When people change, they still remain the same!!
"when people change, they still remain the same" something 1 of my v dear friends told me once!! I feel it to be so true today!! As in I see people around me, and I feel they have changed, and then I still do not know if they really have changed!!! For eg. my bro.....He s being so different after his "love life" s all settled!! I mean a guy, who didnt actually care about feelings, adores his GF like anything! Can go from pillar to post just 2 c her smile.....I obviously think, there is a lot in her to get the best out in him!!! I feel so happy to c the 2 2gether.....They sound perfectly happy(touch wood)!!!! But all this I feel is not so called "change", its just that she had the power to remove his masks!!! :)
I hope every1 finds their "soulmate" who just gets all the best things in you out and running!!!! I am also feeling happy these days.....things finally seem to settle down.....my best friend's I guess finally found some1 who truely respects her, & I cnt explain how happy that news has made me!!! I feel so happy to hear her voice so "fearless" & "bliss"!!!! I wish her all the luck in the world!!! Love u Dhwan!!! Its being nearly 2 weeks n I havnt meet the "gang", so I will make it a point to find time for the buggers!!!
Hoping for a nice week, at work and otherwise!!
I hope every1 finds their "soulmate" who just gets all the best things in you out and running!!!! I am also feeling happy these days.....things finally seem to settle down.....my best friend's I guess finally found some1 who truely respects her, & I cnt explain how happy that news has made me!!! I feel so happy to hear her voice so "fearless" & "bliss"!!!! I wish her all the luck in the world!!! Love u Dhwan!!! Its being nearly 2 weeks n I havnt meet the "gang", so I will make it a point to find time for the buggers!!!
Hoping for a nice week, at work and otherwise!!
Monday, March 24, 2008
A Time.....
This is an extract from the book I was reading 2 weeks back......Just wanted to put the thought back here.......Its lovely......
A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones
together; A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; A time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
A time of war, and a time of peace.
I guess we just have to realize the right "time" to do the right thing ...And if we look deep inside our soul, we always know the rite time!! :)
A time to be born, and a time to die; A time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones
together; A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; A time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
A time of war, and a time of peace.
I guess we just have to realize the right "time" to do the right thing ...And if we look deep inside our soul, we always know the rite time!! :)
Friday, March 21, 2008
New Office - Old Organization
I havnt Blogged for like 1 week!!! Loads of things happened over this whole week.......most of which has being just plain "shocks"!!! But yea good shocks....the kinda shocks you know you want!!!!
2 start with I was shifted to a branch closer to home, "airoli". I think it was a good thing for me, (us) as now I will be away from a lotta things which were there back @ seepz......I feel more responsible for the freedom I have....Here non of my supervisors are deputed, so I am all 2 myself!!! But then its always seen, with freedom, a sense of reponsibility comes and we always know how to handle freedom better..... I wouldnt say its all that easy being here away from a team of 17-18 people, (all 1 of a kind)!!! I miss just turing around and talking to Nikhil or just discussing some work issues with Sybil or walk up 2 Soman and say "I dunno how I will ever close this position"!!!!! Here we are just 3 of us, so its always work work n work!!!
for last 2 days of the week, I attended a v interesting training session on negosiation skills!! The trainer named "Vijay Bhand" very well knew what he was here for.....The training gave a lotta insites about the lil things we forget while @ work!! All n all for me it prooved to be a good sucessful session!!!
I am sure you wanna know atleast a lil bit about the "shocks" I mentioned above, cause the things I have written after that isnt "shocks"..... hmmmmmmmm, All I can say is, I am finally happy, delighted, excited, etc etc in life...... The descripion of shocks will come with time, for now I would just say.........."I am smiling" :) :)
2 start with I was shifted to a branch closer to home, "airoli". I think it was a good thing for me, (us) as now I will be away from a lotta things which were there back @ seepz......I feel more responsible for the freedom I have....Here non of my supervisors are deputed, so I am all 2 myself!!! But then its always seen, with freedom, a sense of reponsibility comes and we always know how to handle freedom better..... I wouldnt say its all that easy being here away from a team of 17-18 people, (all 1 of a kind)!!! I miss just turing around and talking to Nikhil or just discussing some work issues with Sybil or walk up 2 Soman and say "I dunno how I will ever close this position"!!!!! Here we are just 3 of us, so its always work work n work!!!
for last 2 days of the week, I attended a v interesting training session on negosiation skills!! The trainer named "Vijay Bhand" very well knew what he was here for.....The training gave a lotta insites about the lil things we forget while @ work!! All n all for me it prooved to be a good sucessful session!!!
I am sure you wanna know atleast a lil bit about the "shocks" I mentioned above, cause the things I have written after that isnt "shocks"..... hmmmmmmmm, All I can say is, I am finally happy, delighted, excited, etc etc in life...... The descripion of shocks will come with time, for now I would just say.........."I am smiling" :) :)
Saturday, March 15, 2008
When the world around u is on high!!!
yesterday I attended the IMS BU Meet @ Zoia Resort, Panvel. Well, on 13th March, evening I fell down right in front of my building, and sprained my leg!! I wasnt sure untill morning if I can make it to the Meet as I was not able to walk!! Somehow with medicines and disposure I did leave with 1 of our Sr. BDO, JP!! It was a joyess ride till the place "Zoia - Panvel".
The whole day was filled with excitment and games etc....(games I couldnt play due to my sprained leg)! They had a wonderful pool where loads of people spent the hot afternoon in....Every1 seemed to do something or the other in this action-packed day!!! The sun set and cocktails was served....That was the real change... Al around me people started dancing n laughing n cluttering...
That was more than 1 yr ago... n it was a spl day for me, 15th Mar 2008. If I look back at what it was... I just wanna leave a :-)
The whole day was filled with excitment and games etc....(games I couldnt play due to my sprained leg)! They had a wonderful pool where loads of people spent the hot afternoon in....Every1 seemed to do something or the other in this action-packed day!!! The sun set and cocktails was served....That was the real change... Al around me people started dancing n laughing n cluttering...
That was more than 1 yr ago... n it was a spl day for me, 15th Mar 2008. If I look back at what it was... I just wanna leave a :-)
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
What our eyes don’t see, your heart doesn’t grieve over....???
Following is the extarct from the book m currently reading. I just loved this part of the book, and it kinda gives a lil hint of my current feelings, deep deep deep down inside my heart...
“in all languages in the world there is the same proverb “what our eyes don’t see, your heart doesn’t grieve over”. Well, I say there isn’t an ounce of truth in it. The further off they are, the closer to the heart are all those feelings we try to repress and forget. If we are in exile we tend to store away every tiny memory of our roots. If we are far away from a person we love, every person on street we pass by reminds us of them.
The gospels and all the sacred text in all religions, were written in exile, in search of God’s understanding, of the faith that moves whole peoples, of the pilgrimage of souls wandering the face of the Earth. Our ancestors did not know, as we do not know, what the divinity expects from your lives – and it is out of that doubt that books are written, pictures painted, because we do not want to forget who we are, not we can…."
It reminds me of the fact that “what eyes doesn’t see, heart does grieve over.” So its time to leave!!!
“in all languages in the world there is the same proverb “what our eyes don’t see, your heart doesn’t grieve over”. Well, I say there isn’t an ounce of truth in it. The further off they are, the closer to the heart are all those feelings we try to repress and forget. If we are in exile we tend to store away every tiny memory of our roots. If we are far away from a person we love, every person on street we pass by reminds us of them.
The gospels and all the sacred text in all religions, were written in exile, in search of God’s understanding, of the faith that moves whole peoples, of the pilgrimage of souls wandering the face of the Earth. Our ancestors did not know, as we do not know, what the divinity expects from your lives – and it is out of that doubt that books are written, pictures painted, because we do not want to forget who we are, not we can…."
It reminds me of the fact that “what eyes doesn’t see, heart does grieve over.” So its time to leave!!!
Sunday, March 9, 2008
Rendez - Vous with real friends.....
After a pathtic weekend, finally the best part of weekend started, precisely sunday evening 5:30pm. I meet my real friends, Dhwani, Prachoday n Suparshv.... We drove this unusual place in Thane,( I 4got the name really) and we chatted near a creekside!! Truely speaking the place was not so good, but u know those phases "Place doesnt matter, when you are with the right kinda people".....well thatz exactly what I felt today.....Its so nice just standing and talking 2 them, they all are so special to me!!! They in their own way, make me realize, life is not all that bad, they are still there...and their presence makes life so beautiful!!! A crap place like that also, I come back home, recall and SMILE!! :) :)
Well we(the buddies mentioned above) all took same courses but in different colleges....but studied 2gether last minute work......Me n Dhawani go back 4 yrs now, (we meet during Jr. College) and to this date, she is 1 of my "special" friend....well a special friend is som1 whom I can just be myself, some1 if I do not get to talk to for months, can catch-up in 1 night, some1 who knows my family perfectly well and visa versa, bacially some1 who can proudly be called a part of my heart....Prachoday n me were in same school, we werent like good friends back then, but 2day hez really close 2 me a treasure in life and so is Suparshv...With Suparshv, I share like a spl bond, we both share a lotta stuff we both cnt share with any1 else....
Comming back to my beautiful time with them, so we spoke about practically everything under the sky, MTV Rodies, Indian Economy, Studying in USA, H1 visa,the 2008 Budget, world economies, the projects we are doing, the book I am reading, love life of each of us, etc etc..... What I realize today is, we never get 2 understand what we have, when we have it....2day I meet friends may be twice a month, and when they were there 24/7 we just din realize we were in the process of building Happy Memories for life!!!! I am lucky to have them by my side even 2day, and I do not 4get to cherish every moment spent with them....
1 more strange thing I saw in all of us is that all of us are scared of happiness in life. We are all confused about the kinda choices we should make!!! I guess its da age thatz confusing us so much!! Whatever it be, being with them is plain fun.....Hope to see them ASAP..... 2mw is Monday, another week...hoping for a lil more fun and a pinch of happiness!! :) :)
Well we(the buddies mentioned above) all took same courses but in different colleges....but studied 2gether last minute work......Me n Dhawani go back 4 yrs now, (we meet during Jr. College) and to this date, she is 1 of my "special" friend....well a special friend is som1 whom I can just be myself, some1 if I do not get to talk to for months, can catch-up in 1 night, some1 who knows my family perfectly well and visa versa, bacially some1 who can proudly be called a part of my heart....Prachoday n me were in same school, we werent like good friends back then, but 2day hez really close 2 me a treasure in life and so is Suparshv...With Suparshv, I share like a spl bond, we both share a lotta stuff we both cnt share with any1 else....
Comming back to my beautiful time with them, so we spoke about practically everything under the sky, MTV Rodies, Indian Economy, Studying in USA, H1 visa,the 2008 Budget, world economies, the projects we are doing, the book I am reading, love life of each of us, etc etc..... What I realize today is, we never get 2 understand what we have, when we have it....2day I meet friends may be twice a month, and when they were there 24/7 we just din realize we were in the process of building Happy Memories for life!!!! I am lucky to have them by my side even 2day, and I do not 4get to cherish every moment spent with them....
1 more strange thing I saw in all of us is that all of us are scared of happiness in life. We are all confused about the kinda choices we should make!!! I guess its da age thatz confusing us so much!! Whatever it be, being with them is plain fun.....Hope to see them ASAP..... 2mw is Monday, another week...hoping for a lil more fun and a pinch of happiness!! :) :)
Happy Women's Day - Mom
Yesterday was "Women's Day" 8th March 2008!! Well, if u ask me I just think its a day to get good business for Hallmarks & archies!! Neverther the less, since its "women's day" I think its ok!!! :P :P
I really do not know when,why or who started it....But it make sense to atleast take a day out & show some respect the women in our lives. Like our "moms" - they are the most unique kinda human beings, God has ever made!! I mean their love is so unconditional, and so down to earth, we hardly notice their presence....every morning, without doubt the coffee will be @ the table, steaming hot just as I like it, she will always know where any/all of my clothes are, not to mention she always just comes to know if I had a bad day @ work or else where!!! I mean u just cannot hide from her....She just stands right at the door of my room and by 1 look I know, she is here to tell me, she knows I am in pain, and her greatness, if she realizes I am not in a state of mind to share, she will quitely walk away!!!!
She has taught me practially everything, rite from holding a pencil to 2day how to actually take responsibilty of our work @ home or otherwise....Obviously like every other mother-daughter relation we have our set of fights!! But I just cannot stay mad @ her!!! I mean she will just come up to me next moment, and talk as if nothing was wrong!! She is the only human being on earth, who doesnt have emotions like "ego", "jealousy" , "bertayal"....I mean, we have like a huge arrugment, n I will be as usual in my room sulking, and there she is in an hr or so, a table full of my "fav" dishes!! and moreover just talks 2 me as if nothing is wrong!!! It needs huge courage to actually stand there in front of her, and the guilt in my heart cannot be explained in words...She makes my life so easy!!! The 1 thing mamma always teaches me, no situation is bad enough that u need to run away, come face and you will always see the ice break!!!
This 1se for you mamma, for never making me realize how hard it is 2 stay with a person like me!!! For always just standing in front of me protecting me and never taking the crdit for it.....If today people like me, or appritiate me for the person I am, its only cause of u.....Since I was a lil girl, I used 2 make beleive I being like u, by wearing ur shoes and putting on ur purse so that every1 would love me as they do 2 u....but 2day I know, how much ever I try to "fit into your shoes" I will never be able 2 achive what you have achieved!!! Nevertheless if I am told I am like my MOM, I would understand, I have achieved what it takes to be a good human being!!! Thanks mom for always being there....I love u!!!! We love u, MSA, dad n me!!! U r the best!!!
I really do not know when,why or who started it....But it make sense to atleast take a day out & show some respect the women in our lives. Like our "moms" - they are the most unique kinda human beings, God has ever made!! I mean their love is so unconditional, and so down to earth, we hardly notice their presence....every morning, without doubt the coffee will be @ the table, steaming hot just as I like it, she will always know where any/all of my clothes are, not to mention she always just comes to know if I had a bad day @ work or else where!!! I mean u just cannot hide from her....She just stands right at the door of my room and by 1 look I know, she is here to tell me, she knows I am in pain, and her greatness, if she realizes I am not in a state of mind to share, she will quitely walk away!!!!
She has taught me practially everything, rite from holding a pencil to 2day how to actually take responsibilty of our work @ home or otherwise....Obviously like every other mother-daughter relation we have our set of fights!! But I just cannot stay mad @ her!!! I mean she will just come up to me next moment, and talk as if nothing was wrong!! She is the only human being on earth, who doesnt have emotions like "ego", "jealousy" , "bertayal"....I mean, we have like a huge arrugment, n I will be as usual in my room sulking, and there she is in an hr or so, a table full of my "fav" dishes!! and moreover just talks 2 me as if nothing is wrong!!! It needs huge courage to actually stand there in front of her, and the guilt in my heart cannot be explained in words...She makes my life so easy!!! The 1 thing mamma always teaches me, no situation is bad enough that u need to run away, come face and you will always see the ice break!!!
This 1se for you mamma, for never making me realize how hard it is 2 stay with a person like me!!! For always just standing in front of me protecting me and never taking the crdit for it.....If today people like me, or appritiate me for the person I am, its only cause of u.....Since I was a lil girl, I used 2 make beleive I being like u, by wearing ur shoes and putting on ur purse so that every1 would love me as they do 2 u....but 2day I know, how much ever I try to "fit into your shoes" I will never be able 2 achive what you have achieved!!! Nevertheless if I am told I am like my MOM, I would understand, I have achieved what it takes to be a good human being!!! Thanks mom for always being there....I love u!!!! We love u, MSA, dad n me!!! U r the best!!!
Friday, March 7, 2008
Not written by me, but felt by my heart!! - "Boulevard of Broken Dreams"
Since my a huge fav of music, the main thing that attracts me are the lyrics!! This 1 of of those songs, which has ammazing lyrics...This 1se Boulevard of Broken Dreams....
I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don't know where it goes
But it's home to me and I walk alone
I walk this empty street
On the Boulevard of Broken Dreams
Where the city sleepsand
I'm the only one and I walk alone
I walk aloneI walk alone
I walk aloneI walk a...
My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
'Til then I walk alone
I'm walking down the line
That divides me somewhere in my mind
On the border line
Of the edge and where I walk alone
Read between the lines
What's fucked up and everything's alright
Check my vital signs
To know I'm still alive and I walk alone
I walk aloneI walk aloneI walk alone
I walk a...
My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
'Til then I walk alone
Ah-ah, Ah-ah, Ah-ah, Aaah-ah
Ah-ah, Ah-ah
I walk alone I walk a...
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Love is 1 big illusion......is it?
"Love" - People have given/taken lives just trying to describe this emotion!! 1 emotion that drives I guess all of our other emotions....and yet it sometimes is an illusion!!! Well if you honestly ask me, I wouldnt know what it is really!! Is it a state of trance, a way of life, the only way of life, an pleasurly pain or just pain!!! I guess for me its a mixture of all of this!! As a young girl, like all of us, I too have read loads of "love stories" and seen even more movies, all trying to proof, "only love is real"... But I do not think, this explains love for us....I think no1 can actually describe "love" for another!!! Its a very personal and individual choice... Like for my friend Nikhil he is most elited when he sees a cricket match(India winning, and Sachin scoring 100), or watching Manu win with some mind blowing goals, or he buying a new perfume....I think this describes love for him...and definately non of our movies/novels talk about this kinda love....
We all make mistakes of painting love with a vision of these illusions in mind....a person who doesnt have these illusions, have a plain canvas he/she will paint his own way of love and will be much happier I guess......I also like all other fools have a filled canvas and now try 2 depict or "fit" reality into this painting.....I wish I could undo all this....but I guess thatz Life!!!
We all make mistakes of painting love with a vision of these illusions in mind....a person who doesnt have these illusions, have a plain canvas he/she will paint his own way of love and will be much happier I guess......I also like all other fools have a filled canvas and now try 2 depict or "fit" reality into this painting.....I wish I could undo all this....but I guess thatz Life!!!
Y is the title so!!
I am writing a blog after like 3-4 yrs now!! My 1st blog has got deleted long ago, so its I guess important for me to update whatz new in my life...and why is it a roller coaster Ride!!!
The 1st major thing in my life is my 1st work exp. I am now working for past 9 months and its being 1 heck of an experience!! During lectures in Grad school, we were always told, its a bad world out there, you have no1 by ur side and we kept thinking how can some be more crewl than these profs and the exams which kept popping every 6 months, not to forget every week presentations and project submissions!!! But I was so sadly mistaken!! It turns out, they were the sweetest and wonderful years of life so far!!! Here its like every1 is running a race to achieve something..( I am too young to know what it is).....If its money, then how come the CEOs and the heads are always so tensed, worried, stressed!!! N it definately cannot be happiness, cause that would contradict the working till wee hrs of the day, always on the move, and hardly any time for the loved 1se...!!!! I wonder if any1 really knows what is this race about....Since every1 is running I have also started warming up for the big race...
The other pretty funny thing is, all our life we are taught you should always listen 2 your heart, be good to everyone, do good things in life and you will be happy.....where as here the 1st lesson I learnt is, always use the brain(dnt even let your heart speak), always strategize and move ahead(formal way of saying, be selfish) and only then you will get to the top!!! Really strange world this is!!!
I have made a few "aquantance" @ work, they are good and help whenever they can.....But real friends can be made only when we are not exposed to all this complex environment!! I miss being with friends now, but make it a point to meet them every fortnightly!! I guess 2 weeks ago I meet Dhwani, Suparshv, Prachodaya....they are also working and gone ways! Apart from them I really value my sister(archita) aka Monu Singh Aluwalia and my bro (Arka) aka dada in my life....They keep me grounded and love me unconditionally. so basically the whole roler coaster is due to the age where I can have choices and have the liberty to make them, but its still not time to choose!!
The 1st major thing in my life is my 1st work exp. I am now working for past 9 months and its being 1 heck of an experience!! During lectures in Grad school, we were always told, its a bad world out there, you have no1 by ur side and we kept thinking how can some be more crewl than these profs and the exams which kept popping every 6 months, not to forget every week presentations and project submissions!!! But I was so sadly mistaken!! It turns out, they were the sweetest and wonderful years of life so far!!! Here its like every1 is running a race to achieve something..( I am too young to know what it is).....If its money, then how come the CEOs and the heads are always so tensed, worried, stressed!!! N it definately cannot be happiness, cause that would contradict the working till wee hrs of the day, always on the move, and hardly any time for the loved 1se...!!!! I wonder if any1 really knows what is this race about....Since every1 is running I have also started warming up for the big race...
The other pretty funny thing is, all our life we are taught you should always listen 2 your heart, be good to everyone, do good things in life and you will be happy.....where as here the 1st lesson I learnt is, always use the brain(dnt even let your heart speak), always strategize and move ahead(formal way of saying, be selfish) and only then you will get to the top!!! Really strange world this is!!!
I have made a few "aquantance" @ work, they are good and help whenever they can.....But real friends can be made only when we are not exposed to all this complex environment!! I miss being with friends now, but make it a point to meet them every fortnightly!! I guess 2 weeks ago I meet Dhwani, Suparshv, Prachodaya....they are also working and gone ways! Apart from them I really value my sister(archita) aka Monu Singh Aluwalia and my bro (Arka) aka dada in my life....They keep me grounded and love me unconditionally. so basically the whole roler coaster is due to the age where I can have choices and have the liberty to make them, but its still not time to choose!!
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